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Hemla Makan-Dullabh

Finding Me, when I look deeply, I'm in awe of who I find!

Updated: Aug 15


Upon encountering this quote by Rumi for the first time, I reflected on our self-perception. Often, we are overly critical of our bodies, skills, and intelligence. Comparing ourselves to others may lead to feelings of inadequacy, believing we are incapable of achieving what others can, particularly if those individuals are familiar to us.


I feel exhausted just playing this thought out in my head over and over like a stuck record! Sound familiar? Yet many of us do this “self-flagellation” every day!

What if I stopped and really listened to Rumi’s words:

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you” – Rumi

Would I begin to love myself more and start the most fulfilling beautiful romance ever? This appeals to me because I am a hopeless romantic and in Oscar Wilde’s words I can! “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance” – Oscar Wilde

So this leads my busy chattering brain to a new thought pattern, what if I do stop and really hear my first love story? What will I hear?

I constantly remind my children of their preciousness and uniqueness, emphasizing that there is only one of them in the world. Once, my son inquired, "If I did something terribly wrong, would you still love me?" to which I replied, "I would love you regardless of your actions because my love for you is unconditional. This means that there are no conditions to my love, and I love all of you wholeheartedly."

So the thought that occurs to me at this point is that I need to do the same for myself, love my uniqueness, and love every part of me completely. And so…. begins my love story.

Being a Color Therapist, I am mindful of the colors I select. Therefore, I have chosen to compose this blog in shades of pink and green. Pink represents learning to love, nurture, and accept oneself unconditionally, while green reflects my heartfelt approach. During Color Therapy sessions, this teaching materializes and becomes achievable. Whether you opt for pink or green among your chosen five colors, the significant lesson of initiating self-love emerges. To reinforce this belief and aid in its integration, I frequently incorporate affirmations for my clients. I take pleasure in my work, and every individual I encounter is special, leading me to customize each session according to their unique requirements.

Begin with this fantastic and simple affirmation: "I love and accept myself just as I am." It's common for people to struggle with self-nurturing without feeling guilty or knowing how to do so effectively. When women seek advice from me, I provide them with practical and achievable suggestions on how to nurture themselves. Here are some straightforward ideas to help you get started. Allocate at least thirty minutes or more each day to engage in activities that nurture you:

  • Sit in a park or garden and slowly savor your coffee or tea for a half hour.

  • Stand in front of the mirror and really look at yourself, this might feel very uncomfortable but as you do it more and more you start to see YOU. Then say the affirmation “I love and accept myself just as I am”

  • Join a group that uplifts you and helps you feel happy and energized

  • Go for a massage or spa treatment

  • Watch a movie that you want

  • Sign up for a class that you have always wanted to go to but did not


You are precious and unique and there is only one of you. Today is when you fall completely, madly, and unconditionally in love with YOU!


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